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-+*The last four months we’ve been exploring the ideas in Timothy Sanford’s book “I Have to be Perfect” (and other Parsonage Heresies). Here are the first four posts if you need a refresher: The Little Word that Frees Us “I’m Not Supposed to Have Needs” “I Can’t Trust Anyone” “God is Disappointed in Me” Today we’ll […]

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Longing for a Better Country

by Editor on May 10, 2015

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-+*It was May of 1989.  I was 12 years old, and my family was getting ready to leave the country where I had spent most of my childhood. We were leaving Liberia to go back to California for a year-long home assignment.  We packed up our house and put all our personal belongings into the spare […]

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-+*After last month’s column addressing the question of domestic violence, a reader asked these questions in the comments section: How much abuse is too much abuse? How much abuse constitutes grounds for divorce? My quick answer was:  ANY abuse is too much abuse, and ANY abuse constitutes grounds for divorce. The reasons I think this? […]

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“God is Disappointed With Me” | Lies We Believe

by Elizabeth Trotter on April 22, 2015

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-+*For the past three months we’ve been working through Timothy Sanford’s book “I Have to be Perfect” (And Other Parsonage Heresies). If you’re new to this series, you can read the previous posts here: Part 1: The Little Word That Frees Us Part 2: “I’m Not Supposed to Have Needs” Part 3: “I Can’t Trust Anyone” […]

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“I Can’t Trust Anyone” | Lies We Believe

by Elizabeth Trotter on March 30, 2015

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-+*The last two months we’ve been exploring the ideas in Timothy Sanford’s book “I Have to be Perfect” (and other Parsonage Heresies). I hope this series is as healing for you as it has been for me. So far, we’ve given ourselves permission to say “and” in The Little Word That Frees Us. Then we began […]

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-+*It’s been five weeks since we said farewell to the house in Laos that we were still calling “new home” and boarded a plane to “Nana Papa home” in Australia. It’s less than a week now until we get on another plane that will take us to “ocean home” in Vanuatu—a place the kids and […]

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Keeping in Touch Long Distance

by Rachel Pieh Jones on March 4, 2015

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-+*Like pretty much all Life Overseas readers, my kids are growing up 12,290 miles from both sets of grandparents. Their aunts, uncles, and cousins are equally far away. Sometimes my youngest spends a month away from me in order to visit her grandparents. My oldest two attend boarding school. And yet, I think my kids […]

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-+*Reader Question: How do we practically care for our marriage and stay connected when we are living in the rural bush in the middle of Africa? …very little privacy, no babysitter, no places to go for a “date”, homeschooling kids, daily life already takes so much energy, not a lot of things to do together […]

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“I’m Not Supposed to Have Needs” | Lies We Believe

by Elizabeth Trotter on February 19, 2015

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-+*Last month I began a series on life in ministry families and the thinking patterns we absorb along the way. As I mentioned then, this conversation is for everyone — whether you grew up as a Pastor’s Kid (PK) or Missionary Kid (MK), whether you entered ministry as an adult, or whether you love people who […]

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The Purpose of Marriage is Not to Make You Holy

by Jonathan Trotter on February 12, 2015

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-+*Before we moved abroad, we did some marriage counseling. What I mean is, we sat in an old guy’s office for fifteen hours and cried. It was amazing. He told us our marriage could be a safe-haven on the field. Or not. He said we could strengthen and encourage each other on the field. Or […]

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How to save world while destroying marriage

-+*Kay and I moved to the Solomon Islands in 1993. We boarded a rusty ship and headed out to a remote island village with two small kids in tow, and I jumped head first into learning the Arosi language.  The sooner I learned the language, the sooner the Arosi people would have God’s Word in […]

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The Little Word That Frees Us

by Elizabeth Trotter on January 29, 2015

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-+*We talk a lot about Missionary Kids (MKs) being Third Culture Kids (TCKs), but we talk less often about another aspect of their lives, the Preacher’s Kid (PKs) aspect. These MKs of ours, these kids we love so fiercely, are both TCKs and PKs. They deal with both the cultural issues of TCKs and the […]

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