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    I was introduced one time in Cairo as “This is Marilyn. She DOES things with the food here.” The person I was introduced to looked at me in holy awe. “You can DO things with the food here? How?” To me, Cairo was a thriving metropolis that had cheese. Doing things with the food […]


6 Reasons Furloughs are Awesome (sort of)

by Jonathan Trotter on October 6, 2015


6. A furlough is one of the best “weight-gain” plans out there. It’s sort of like pregnancy, but with furlough, the cravings occur every-mester. During furlough, scales become toxic and should be avoided at all cost. No worries, though, ’cause if you’re wondering whether or not you’ve gained weight, just get back on the plane and return […]


Would Jesus Give an Addict a Clean Needle?

by Editor on October 5, 2015

Would you give an addict a clean needle, so they could stay alive until they found freedom from their addiction? Would you give a prostituted woman condoms, so she could protect herself until she found freedom from prostitution? Clearly, the famous evangelical leader I was speaking with in Cambodia didn’t think we should be helping […]


Ask a counselor: how do we process loss and grief?

by Kay Bruner on October 3, 2015


A couple of months ago, I put out a call on our Facebook page for new questions for the “Ask a Counselor” column, and I got a whole slew of TCK questions.  To those questions, there is pretty much one answer. What’s the most common reason that adult TCKs seek counseling? Unresolved loss and grief. […]


When Someone You Love Dies, and You are Far, Far Away

by Rachel Pieh Jones on October 2, 2015

Holy Ground w quote

Note: This was written a year and a half ago, but still holds true for today. My Grandma Jeanne died last week. Death sucks. Or, in the gentler words of my wise (and gentler) friend Sue, “I hate death.” Even if she was in her upper 80’s and, as Lucy says, “That’s what happens to […]


People are not our Project

by Chris Lautsbaugh on September 30, 2015


As a zealous, young missionary I seemed to make  the same mistake over and over. Now as a veteran, I find the same never-ending truth must remain continually before me. People are not our projects.   We never set out to do this intentionally. Our mistakes are made in ignorance. Our desire is to do good, […]


Resources For Men Serving Cross-Culturally

by Amy Young on September 28, 2015


I received the following email from a man I’d met at MTI’s Debriefing and Renewal. Brian, his wife, and I were in the same debriefing group. I was recently talking to a former missionary friend of mine who was going through some tough times in his re-entry to the States despite the fact that he has […]


How to Keep Running When You Have Fallen

by Abby Alleman on September 25, 2015

How to Keep Running

The clouds wisp along the sky like cotton candy in rosebud pink, salmon and peach colors. It is early morning. I pound the concrete with sure steps and even breaths. I have started running again. I have only run but a time or two in the nearly nine years since I was pregnant, and sick, […]


The Far Side of Somewhere

by Elizabeth Trotter on September 21, 2015


I remember my first home service. All those awkward experiences like drinking water from the tap and flushing the toilet with potable water again. Or feeling naked and exposed with no metal security bars on the windows. Or handing payment to cashiers with two hands (like I do in Cambodia) and then being embarrassed, because […]


Nine Ways to Save a Marriage

by Editor on September 21, 2015


If there is one place where your marriage will suffer, it’s probably on the mission field. My husband and I waltzed into marriage crazy in love and stupidly naïve. After knowing each other only 4 months, we eloped on a white sand beach in Zanzibar, Tanzania. Then we spent the next five years running a […]


That One Safe Friend

by Craig Thompson on September 18, 2015


Do you have that one safe friend? When I went overseas, I didn’t. In fact, I didn’t even know I needed one. Don’t get me wrong. I had a lot of friends, good friends, but I didn’t have one particular person who was committed to the role of being that one safe friend. Since then I’ve come to […]


On Harassment: Freedom from the Silence of Shame

by Marilyn on September 16, 2015

silence of shame

Long ago on a spring day in Cairo, I was walking across a small footbridge to the area of the city where I lived. I had crossed the footbridge hundreds of times, usually with one or three children hanging on to my skirt and in my arms. This time I was alone, lost in my […]