Kay Bruner

Ask a Counselor: faith shift edition

by Kay Bruner on October 5, 2017

It can begin any number of ways: Burnout leads to a need for better boundaries And you ask yourself: “If Jesus offers rest for my soul, why does everyone else want me to work harder?” Social justice issues move to the forefront And you ask yourself: “People here are literally dying, while American Christians sit […]

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Ask A Counselor: How’s my self-care plan holding up?

by Kay Bruner on September 5, 2017

Hey friends, I usually write a self-care post in January, but I just wanted to run through a quick self-care check-up with you this month, and give a few ideas if you find yourself needing a little pick-me-up. I like to use the Biopsychosocial model as a guide to make sure that we’re covering all […]

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Letter of the day: “I’m coming to you at this moment as a desperate mom in need of a resource, like, today for my 10 year old son. Briefly: After 5 years living in _____, we’re packing up and heading back to the states in 3 1/2 weeks. My anxiety prone son, who is very […]

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The stones that weigh us down, that keep us from mature growth.  What are they, and how can we roll them away?  So far in this series, we’ve looked at the stones of perfectionism and shame.  This month, we’re exploring approval-seeking. As we look at approval-seeking, remember that we’ve already figured out that perfectionism and […]

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Ask a Counselor: roll away the stone of shame

by Kay Bruner on June 6, 2017

This month, I’m continuing a series about removing obstacles to emotional and spiritual growth.  The idea is this: we’re all built to grow and mature, and we will naturally carry out that purpose when we roll away the stones that hold us down. Last time, I talked about how perfectionism blocks growth. This time around, I […]

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Years ago, I read that people are like trees: made to grow. Sometimes, though, it’s like we’re planted under a big boulder, and that huge rock keeps us small and stuck, frustrated and trapped, unable to grow into all we were created to be. The advice to therapists in this particular article was:  help clients […]

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A Life Overseas is not a policy-making institution, but rather a support system for missionaries and Christians living overseas.  My experiences and opinions are my own, and I am solely responsible for them.  I am not speaking for other writers or editors.   Due to the controversial nature of this topic, comments will be moderator-approved […]

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I see missionary marriage dysfunction falling into three broad patterns: disconnection addiction abuse Let me tell you a bit about each pattern, and share some resources that can help. DISCONNECTION Disconnection is the easy one to deal with. All you need to fix the problem is: two people willing to invest in the relationship, and the […]

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In January, Andy and I traveled to Chiang Mai, Thailand, where we spoke at a conference for expat homeschooling parents.  We traveled around the world, spending thousands of dollars and untold hours on planes and airport lounges, to speak for three hours.  This made me highly, highly motivated to bring the best, most helpful resources […]

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Hey friends, it’s January! I don’t care about resolutions, but I do care about our self-care plans, because if we don’t think about our self-care plans now, the year will roll on, and we’ll be left gasping in the dust somewhere down the road. Last January, I asked you this:  what would you do daily, […]

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Comfort for Advent

by Kay Bruner on December 7, 2016

  The first words of Handel’s Messiah are these: Comfort ye, comfort ye my people, saith your God. Speak ye comfortably to Jerusalem, and cry unto her that her warfare is accomplished, that her iniquity is pardoned.  (Isaiah 40:1-2) In other words, IT IS FINISHED. This is where it all starts for us:  IT IS […]

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Psalm 139, three ways

by Kay Bruner on November 6, 2016

O Lord, you have examined my heart and know everything about me. You know when I sit down or stand up. You know my thoughts even when I’m far away. You see me when I travel and when I rest at home. You know everything I do. You know what I am going to say […]

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