Kay Bruner

In January, Andy and I traveled to Chiang Mai, Thailand, where we spoke at a conference for expat homeschooling parents.  We traveled around the world, spending thousands of dollars and untold hours on planes and airport lounges, to speak for three hours.  This made me highly, highly motivated to bring the best, most helpful resources […]


Hey friends, it’s January! I don’t care about resolutions, but I do care about our self-care plans, because if we don’t think about our self-care plans now, the year will roll on, and we’ll be left gasping in the dust somewhere down the road. Last January, I asked you this:  what would you do daily, […]


Comfort for Advent

by Kay Bruner on December 7, 2016

  The first words of Handel’s Messiah are these: Comfort ye, comfort ye my people, saith your God. Speak ye comfortably to Jerusalem, and cry unto her that her warfare is accomplished, that her iniquity is pardoned.  (Isaiah 40:1-2) In other words, IT IS FINISHED. This is where it all starts for us:  IT IS […]


Psalm 139, three ways

by Kay Bruner on November 6, 2016

O Lord, you have examined my heart and know everything about me. You know when I sit down or stand up. You know my thoughts even when I’m far away. You see me when I travel and when I rest at home. You know everything I do. You know what I am going to say […]


Ask A Counselor: walk in the light you have

by Kay Bruner on October 5, 2016

When I was taking classes toward my masters in counseling, one of my favorite professors was an older gentleman with many years’ experience in the counseling world.  Whatever class he was teaching, we could be sure that he would regale us with fascinating tales of his experiences as a therapist. Inevitably, he would conclude one […]


We are back in our passport country for the first time in two years and while adjustment has been pretty easy, I was very surprised to realize that the traumatic events experienced overseas seemed to follow me here. I had a little understanding of reverse culture shock, but hadn’t ever heard anyone speak or write […]

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“How do we keep our marriage strong, with all the stresses of cross-cultural living and frequent transitions?” “My husband was exposed to porn around age 10. Ever since, he’s struggled with it.  I think he’s sincere about wanting to control his problem, and over the years, he’s doing better.  It still really bothers me, though, […]



How do you know if you need this month’s bundle of books on boundaries? If you’re a human being, you probably need to think about healthy boundaries and how they apply to your life.  In other words, it would be good for every person to do a little reading on this topic, and the books in […]


I think spiritual growth and emotional healing usually has three parts:  cognitive, behavioral, and relational. Good books help us work on the cognitive aspect of a problem:  what we think, what we know, what we believe to be true. As a counselor, I love it when a client has already done solid cognitive work before they […]



Recently, I was Skyping with a client overseas who wanted to talk with me about symptoms of burnout and spiritual dryness. As she told me about a particular experience, I said, “That was really traumatic for you.” Naming that experience as traumatic was an “aha” moment for her in understanding the current symptoms, and how to […]


God in a Green Skirt

by Kay Bruner on April 5, 2016


Every month, as I write the “Ask a Counselor” column, I hope it’s helpful.  But I’m always aware that, as human beings, we can only do so much.  And I’m always aware that God is able to do far more than we could ever dare to ask, think, or even dream (Ephesians 3:20). This month, […]



In 2003, I had a nervous breakdown overseas.  I’ve told the whole story in my memoir, As Soon As I Fell. Part of my story is the story of some very damaging counseling that I experienced in the attempt to recover.  As I look back, the red flags are clear: I was asked to sign away my right […]