When You Struggle

When You Have to Wash Seven Times

by Editor on June 25, 2015

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I was a city girl dropped suddenly into the jungle. It was 2013, the hardest year of my life. Our family of four had packed up and moved to Papua New Guinea and the transition hadn’t gone smoothly. In addition to the two little people who depended on me for everything, culture shock had hit […]

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Angry, Mean, and Redeemed

by Elizabeth Trotter on June 18, 2015

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I lost my mind this hot season. Became unglued. Went a little nuts. Whatever you want to call it. Yes, everyone’s crabbier and more uncomfortable this time of year, and it would be mighty convenient to blame my meltdown on the heat. It would also be unfair, for I can’t in good conscience blame the […]

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5 Thoughts for the Local Church

by Chris Lautsbaugh on June 17, 2015

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The local church and missionaries on the field should be on the same team, but often a wedge of misunderstanding is driven between the two. There is a danger when missionaries feel entitled to the support of a local body. Many dig their own grave in destroying relationships with their sending churches. Equally, misunderstanding can come […]

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Stones of Remembrance

by Marilyn on June 14, 2015

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When I was four years old, my parents thought they may not be able to continue living in Pakistan. They were tired. They were discouraged. They felt they had seen so little, for so much work. Mom and Dad were getting ready to go on a furlough and wisely decided not to make a decision […]

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The Psalms: A Reentry Handbook

by Editor on June 11, 2015

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I remember hanging suspended upside down inside a squished cab of a pick up truck alongside the road. The ambulance arrived, and two paramedics stuck their heads in from either side of the cab. They told us they would have us out in no time, they inquired as to how we were doing, and then […]

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When Trust Stands Tall

by Richelle Wright on June 10, 2015

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I saw or heard that phrase somewhere this last year, and it has hung with me… …because I need trust to stand tall. Like now! A few days back, I went with my freshly graduated 18 year old to her yearly physical (she won’t have her license for a few more weeks). As the nurse measured […]

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Worthless

by Jonathan Trotter on June 7, 2015

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I feel worthless. The feeling rises and crests like an impending wave barreling towards the surface of my heart. And with each wave of worthlessness comes an intense weariness of soul, a near drowning. The breakers seem to rise from nowhere. I can’t predict them, and that makes me mad. They’re not tied to whether […]

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“Over the years, we’ve said goodbye to so many friends and colleagues.  What can we do about all the loss and grief that’s piled up?” It’s that time of year again in the expat universe, when the Great Migration takes place. You’re coming or you’re going.  You’re leaving or you’re staying. It’s your first move, […]

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A Note from an Impostor

by Marilyn on May 18, 2015

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On Wednesday of last week, Laura Parker announced changes and new leadership here at A Life Overseas. Later that day I received a lovely note on Twitter from Denise James, co-author of the amazing blog Taking Route. Two days later, I received another encouraging note from Jillian Rogers, another woman from this community. And with […]

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Who do you want to be when you grow up?

by Richelle Wright on May 13, 2015

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I can only ever really remember wanting to be a missionary… except for one brief period in my life. And that single, brief period of disillusionment came after an encounter with another missionary. A woman’s group at my church had volunteered to collect clothing to donate to a missionary our church supported, an individual who […]

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Longing for a Better Country

by Editor on May 10, 2015

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It was May of 1989.  I was 12 years old, and my family was getting ready to leave the country where I had spent most of my childhood. We were leaving Liberia to go back to California for a year-long home assignment.  We packed up our house and put all our personal belongings into the spare […]

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After last month’s column addressing the question of domestic violence, a reader asked these questions in the comments section: How much abuse is too much abuse? How much abuse constitutes grounds for divorce? My quick answer was:  ANY abuse is too much abuse, and ANY abuse constitutes grounds for divorce. The reasons I think this? […]

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