When You Struggle

Ask a counselor:  when the helper needs help

by Kay Bruner on September 2, 2015

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This is a question that came in several months ago, and it seemed like it needed an immediate answer, so I answered at the time.  I thought it was worth talking about again, though. The question addresses a very specific and personal situation, but I think the answers can apply to many more general circumstances, […]

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Boats on Mekong

I am five months into our time in Port Vila now, and it’s been almost six months since Cyclone Pam devastated large parts of Vanuatu. All things considered, we’re settling in well. One thing that’s caught me by surprise during this move, however, is how much I think back to Laos. We spent five years […]

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Harmonizing Sadness and Joy

by Craig Thompson on August 19, 2015

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Let me add my voice to those who are praising Pixar’s Inside Out as a great movie for the cross-cultural community. I think we’ll be showing clips of it to expats, repats, and TCKs for a long time to come. (If you’ve not seen it and don’t know what it’s about, I suggest you read Kay Bruner’s discussion of the movie, from […]

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With A Little Help From My Friends

by Anisha Hopkinson on August 11, 2015

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A year ago my life could be described as a constant state of exhaustion, amoebic dysentery, language learning brain mush, and heat rash. I fought daily with my husband, picked bugs out of our food, yelled at bully neighbours, and told anyone who asked how I was doing, “Oh, I’m ok.” Yeah… I was not […]

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Ask a counselor: What about conflict?

by Kay Bruner on August 4, 2015

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When we first arrived overseas, I remember hearing an older, experienced missionary make this statement:  “The real reason most missionaries leave the field is conflict with other missionaries.” I thought that was so strange!  I mean, here we are, missionaries!  The cream of the crop, spiritually speaking!  Called by God!  Commissioned by our churches!  Well-vetted […]

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“Feeling so fearful and alone since moving as a trailing spouse” Last month someone found my blog because they did an internet search for that phrase. It reminded me how much pain a trailing spouse endures. I remember the struggle; I remember the suffering. And while whoever typed those search terms is actually not alone, […]

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Encountering God: A Tale of Two Bushes

by Craig Thompson on July 15, 2015

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I want to hear God. I want to know his specific will for my life. I want him to tell me what to do next. I want . . . A Burning Bush It worked for Moses. When he was on Mt. Horeb and saw the bush that burned but didn’t burn up, he went over to get a […]

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A life overseas - abuse

Today’s post has been submitted anonymously as a follow up to a piece published here, at A Life Overseas, in 2013. Today we hear from the daughter of ‘Jessica’ that wrote that article in 2013.  ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ “Koman ou di?” – translation – “How do you say?” That is how it all started. As an eleven-year-old […]

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Women at the Well: A Poem

by Editor on July 5, 2015

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When our past has cast a shadow Even sunshine can’t dispel, There is One who knows and loves us Who will meet us at the well. _ When our first love’s far behind us And we’re shocked how far we fell, Look how far He’s come to save us. Look! He’s waiting at the well. […]

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When You Have to Wash Seven Times

by Editor on June 25, 2015

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I was a city girl dropped suddenly into the jungle. It was 2013, the hardest year of my life. Our family of four had packed up and moved to Papua New Guinea and the transition hadn’t gone smoothly. In addition to the two little people who depended on me for everything, culture shock had hit […]

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Angry, Mean, and Redeemed

by Elizabeth Trotter on June 18, 2015

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I lost my mind this hot season. Became unglued. Went a little nuts. Whatever you want to call it. Yes, everyone’s crabbier and more uncomfortable this time of year, and it would be mighty convenient to blame my meltdown on the heat. It would also be unfair, for I can’t in good conscience blame the […]

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5 Thoughts for the Local Church

by Chris Lautsbaugh on June 17, 2015

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The local church and missionaries on the field should be on the same team, but often a wedge of misunderstanding is driven between the two. There is a danger when missionaries feel entitled to the support of a local body. Many dig their own grave in destroying relationships with their sending churches. Equally, misunderstanding can come […]

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