Worthless

by Jonathan Trotter
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I feel worthless. The feeling rises and crests like an impending wave barreling towards the surface of my heart. And with each wave of worthlessness comes an intense weariness of soul, a near drowning. The breakers seem to rise from nowhere. I can’t predict them, and that makes me mad. They’re not tied to whether […]

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Ask A Counselor: What can we do about loss and grief?

by Kay Bruner
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“Over the years, we’ve said goodbye to so many friends and colleagues.  What can we do about all the loss and grief that’s piled up?” It’s that time of year again in the expat universe, when the Great Migration takes place. You’re coming or you’re going.  You’re leaving or you’re staying. It’s your first move, […]

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Leaving Season Sale

by Tara Livesay
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Several years back Bart and Ursula Love sold their vehicles, packed up their middle-America household, and put things into a storage unit in order to move their family several thousand miles away to AlternateCultureVille. The Loves had the heart and desire to serve abroad. They prepared, they prayed, they went forward with a realistic outlook […]

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The Expatriate and Leadership

by Rachel Pieh Jones
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Expatriates are often put into positions of leadership simply by nature of our physical presence or because of a certain number of years survived lived in a place. Sometimes it is because a person is a gifted leader (yes, that link is a shout-out to Marilyn Gardner), sometimes they are a reluctant leader, sometimes it […]

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How to Walk Through the Wilderness

by Abby Alleman
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I am in the middle of an unexpected and unwanted series of transitions. I can easily fall into the ‘why’s?’ which lead me right into a wallowing self-pity. Yet while it’s hard to believe some days, I know there is a better, far more beautiful way through this desert time. As I was praying yesterday […]

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What to Do About Short Term Missions

by Editor
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Yesterday I discussed the Mess of Short Term Missions. Today, I’m going to offer ten ways to do a short term mission trip well. These ideas are for anyone leading or going on a short term mission trip — or for anyone who’s trying to decide whether or not to go on a particular trip. […]

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The Mess of Short Term Missions

by Editor
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(yep, that’s me on a short term missions trip trying to hold babies–guilty as charged) Needless to say, there has been a ton of debate around the topic of how to do short term missions trips well, and it’s a sensitive issue. I’ve read countless articles and heated debates on blogs, both lauding and criticizing short […]

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A Conversation With Timothy Sanford, Author of “I Have to be Perfect”

by Elizabeth Trotter
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The last four months we’ve been exploring the ideas in Timothy Sanford’s book “I Have to be Perfect” (and other Parsonage Heresies). Here are the first four posts if you need a refresher: The Little Word that Frees Us “I’m Not Supposed to Have Needs” “I Can’t Trust Anyone” “God is Disappointed in Me” Today we’ll […]

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They Are Not Ready…

by Chris Lautsbaugh
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“They are not ready…” These may be some of the most frequently uttered words when missionaries consider passing the baton of leadership. They can also be the most painful. One of the leaders I work with shares the story of being a young, oppressed worker in South Africa during the time of apartheid: A white […]

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A Note from an Impostor

by Marilyn
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On Wednesday of last week, Laura Parker announced changes and new leadership here at A Life Overseas. Later that day I received a lovely note on Twitter from Denise James, co-author of the amazing blog Taking Route. Two days later, I received another encouraging note from Jillian Rogers, another woman from this community. And with […]

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God Can Heal Our Broken Potatoes

by Editor
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Another beautiful, healing post from an Adult Third Culture Kid (ATCK) who returned to one of his host countries for a couple years to work with middle school and high school TCKs.   One night we asked our middle schoolers, “What’s the hardest thing someone could ask you to do?” Here are some of their […]

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To Our Friends Here: An Announcement About Changing Leadership

by Editor
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The A Life Overseas community began over two years ago; it was an idea birthed from two moms who had found their voices via their own blogs, written from the Bolivian countryside and the Asian jungle. We wanted to launch an online community where authentic conversations, honest experiences, and spiritual encouragement could be shared around […]

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