Hiding Abuse Does Not Protect the Mission

The mission. The mission. The mission. What could be more important to missionaries than the mission? But talk about the supreme importance of the work of the church can be used to silence those who would expose sin in the church. Russell Moore pointed this out last month, writing in Christianity Today about Guidepost Solution’s … Continue reading Hiding Abuse Does Not Protect the Mission

Dealing With Abuse Overseas is Complicated

What struck me the most were her lifeless eyes. Without emotion, the young teenager related to me disturbing descriptions of abuse in her home. Her father would verbally assault her and yank her hair. He would beat and kick her mother, locking her out of their bedroom for hours. My horror quickly turned to despair. … Continue reading Dealing With Abuse Overseas is Complicated

One thing we get terribly wrong in our response to abuse. And one way to get it right.

Someone alleges abuse. Someone in power rushes to hush or silence the accuser, sometimes even using Scriptures or “biblical principles” as the gag. And it’s so wrong. It’s poison, offered as cure, both to the victim and those close by. But there’s an idea I’ve been developing that just might be an antidote. At least … Continue reading One thing we get terribly wrong in our response to abuse. And one way to get it right.

Ask a Counselor: what about child abuse?

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  A couple of weeks ago, I got an email from a young teacher at a missionary-run school.  She was hearing from local children attending the school about abuse they were suffering by their parents at home.  One of the older children had written detailed reports of the abuse, and even had photographic evidence. When … Continue reading Ask a Counselor: what about child abuse?

Telling My Story: Sexual Abuse on the Mission Field

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Today’s post has been submitted anonymously as a follow up to a piece published here, at A Life Overseas, in 2013. Today we hear from the daughter of ‘Jessica’ that wrote that article in 2013.  ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ “Koman ou di?” – translation – “How do you say?” That is how it all started. As an eleven-year-old … Continue reading Telling My Story: Sexual Abuse on the Mission Field

Ask a Counselor: How much abuse is too much abuse?

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After last month’s column addressing the question of domestic violence, a reader asked these questions in the comments section: How much abuse is too much abuse? How much abuse constitutes grounds for divorce? My quick answer was:  ANY abuse is too much abuse, and ANY abuse constitutes grounds for divorce. The reasons I think this? … Continue reading Ask a Counselor: How much abuse is too much abuse?

Sexual Abuse on the Mission Field

The instant message to her friend said, “I hate them. They don’t know anything about me.” Four years earlier we had landed on foreign soil.  The flight that carried us, and our 100 pounds each of luggage, was just short enough to cry the entire way.  We felt strongly we were on the right path, … Continue reading Sexual Abuse on the Mission Field

What we can learn from the SBC

I’m currently reading The Soul of Desire; Discovering the Neuroscience of Longing, Beauty, and Community by Curt Thompson, MD. In April I was privileged to hear him speak in person on this topic. While the neuroscience is fascinating, what stood out was the role of beauty. And all of the ways that we humans can … Continue reading What we can learn from the SBC

It’s Time for Research-Based MK Care

by Lauren Wells We have all heard stories of Adult TCKs who struggle. We have also seen the triumphant stories of TCKs who seem to exude the positive qualities third culture kids are known for. But what influences which end of this spectrum a TCK migrates toward? Is it the number of moves? Parenting styles? … Continue reading It’s Time for Research-Based MK Care

Searching for Home After a Global Upbringing

Editor’s Note: The following piece is an excerpt from Lisa McKay’s memoir, Love at the Speed of Email. She first shared it on A Life Overseas many years ago, back in March of 2013. But many of our readers weren’t around then, and I love this story so much that I asked her if we … Continue reading Searching for Home After a Global Upbringing

Dethroning My Missionary Hero

During my first year on the mission field — twenty years ago now — I read Elisabeth Elliot’s only novel, No Graven Image. I immediately regretted it.  Elisabeth Elliot was my hero. Her books about her first husband’s life and martyrdom significantly influenced my decision to become a missionary. Her emphasis on steadfast obedience, no … Continue reading Dethroning My Missionary Hero

Radical Forgiveness

by Rahma This week marked the sixteenth anniversary of an unforgettable family tragedy. My mom’s first cousin Jeff was driving with his five children when a pickup truck suddenly crossed the grassy median and hit them head-on at 60 miles per hour. All five of the children were killed instantly, and Jeff suffered serious injuries. … Continue reading Radical Forgiveness