Kay Bruner

If you are anywhere near a movie theater showing recent releases this summer, you absolutely must take yourself and your family to see Inside Out. This is not a movie about kissing the handsome prince or surviving an amazing outdoor adventure or defeating the bad guys. This is a movie about how to have a […]

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“Over the years, we’ve said goodbye to so many friends and colleagues.  What can we do about all the loss and grief that’s piled up?” It’s that time of year again in the expat universe, when the Great Migration takes place. You’re coming or you’re going.  You’re leaving or you’re staying. It’s your first move, […]

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After last month’s column addressing the question of domestic violence, a reader asked these questions in the comments section: How much abuse is too much abuse? How much abuse constitutes grounds for divorce? My quick answer was:  ANY abuse is too much abuse, and ANY abuse constitutes grounds for divorce. The reasons I think this? […]

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“Would you talk about domestic violence on the mission field?”  That’s the question I got last month.  “Wow,” I replied, “I sure would.”  And then, my friend shared the story that follows.  I’m passing it along with her permission, and with a few changes made to protect identities. CASE STUDY There is a suitcase in […]

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What do I do if I feel like I am struggling with cynicism and hardheartedness? Also, where is the balance between finding your voice in the hard stuff and not developing tunnel vision for it? For instance, I have been recently being more open about how often I take all the advice to be brave […]

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Reader Question: How do we practically care for our marriage and stay connected when we are living in the rural bush in the middle of Africa? …very little privacy, no babysitter, no places to go for a “date”, homeschooling kids, daily life already takes so much energy, not a lot of things to do together […]

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Good self-care is a lifestyle of regular, ongoing, non-crisis activities that promote good spiritual, emotional, and physical health. What feeds your soul?  Reading, running, painting, playing a musical instrument, watching a comedy, a week at the beach?  Whatever feeds your soul, brings you rest, refuels you for the journey, those things constitute good self-care for […]

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Let Earth Receive

by Kay Bruner on December 22, 2014

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Let’s just go ahead and say this right out loud:  when you live overseas, Christmas can be really hard. It’s hard to be away from family and friends.  That’s the big one.  It’s the season of Together, and you’re not. In addition, the carols are sung to the wrong tune, spiral-sliced honey ham does not […]

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Ask A Counselor: Do I need counseling?

by Kay Bruner on November 19, 2014

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Welcome to the first in a new series here at A Life Overseas:  Ask A Counselor! (It sounds kind of like a game show title.  I feel like there should be flashing lights and funky music.) Let me tell you just a little bit about myself before we get started this first time.  I’m 48 […]

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the gift of a voice

by Kay Bruner on October 20, 2014

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“I feel awful.  Something inside me is squeezing me so bad I can hardly breathe.” With those first words of Letters Never Sent, Ruth Van Reken spoke straight to my TCK heart.  It was 1988, I was a senior in college, the book was brand-new, and for the first time in my life, somebody besides […]

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