8 Ways for Expats Who Stay to Stay Well

Before you move abroad there are orientation meetings and cross cultural trainings and seminars and books to read and lists to check off and personality tests to pass and character examinations. When you decide it is time to repatriate back to the ‘home country’ there are debriefs and readjustment seminars and repatriating coaches and Third … Continue reading 8 Ways for Expats Who Stay to Stay Well

When Someone You Love Dies, and You are Far, Far Away

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Note: This was written a year and a half ago, but still holds true for today. My Grandma Jeanne died last week. Death sucks. Or, in the gentler words of my wise (and gentler) friend Sue, “I hate death.” Even if she was in her upper 80’s and, as Lucy says, “That’s what happens to … Continue reading When Someone You Love Dies, and You are Far, Far Away

How to Communicate so People Will Care

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Newsletters. Prayer updates. Itinerations. Reports. Furloughs. Presentations. Are you stressed out yet? For most of us, living and serving abroad means communicating back to senders. A lot. But this isn’t what we went to school for, and besides that, communicating in person or in print is scary. It’s exposing. It’s like learning a new culture … Continue reading How to Communicate so People Will Care

A Conversation With Timothy Sanford, Author of “I Have to be Perfect”

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The last four months we’ve been exploring the ideas in Timothy Sanford’s book “I Have to be Perfect” (and other Parsonage Heresies). Here are the first four posts if you need a refresher: The Little Word that Frees Us “I’m Not Supposed to Have Needs” “I Can’t Trust Anyone” “God is Disappointed in Me” Today we’ll … Continue reading A Conversation With Timothy Sanford, Author of “I Have to be Perfect”

What Living Cross Culturally Taught Me About Being a Christian

By Cindy Brandt I have lived cross culturally almost my entire life. Born in Taiwan, I knew one language, one culture, and one worldview, until I was introduced to the strange habits of the West at age 10. As my tongue adjusted to swirling out two diverse languages, I began to know life only by … Continue reading What Living Cross Culturally Taught Me About Being a Christian

“I Can’t Trust Anyone” | Lies We Believe

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The last two months we’ve been exploring the ideas in Timothy Sanford’s book “I Have to be Perfect” (and other Parsonage Heresies). I hope this series is as healing for you as it has been for me. So far, we’ve given ourselves permission to say “and” in The Little Word That Frees Us. Then we began … Continue reading “I Can’t Trust Anyone” | Lies We Believe

When All You Can Say is “Sí! Sí! Sí!”

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Early September doesn’t just mark the beginning of the school year for children, it also marks the beginning of language learning for both newcomers as well as those who have been in their adopted countries a long time. Because let’s be honest here – fluency takes a lifetime and more. Trying to get our tongues … Continue reading When All You Can Say is “Sí! Sí! Sí!”

What to Write

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Productivity and results. These are hallmarks of the west, demonstrations of success that prove our worth. And when you are accountable to others, even if you live a world away, the pressure can build to show results, to document success. Our guest poster, Laura, takes us into this topic with gracious honesty. You can read … Continue reading What to Write

When Your Marriage is Wounded (and you’re far away from help)

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Yesterday was my 30th wedding anniversary. My husband and I met back to back at an Indian restaurant on Devon Street in Chicago. He was a cute grad student at the University of Illinois. I was a cute nurse newly deported from Pakistan. A week later I said to someone “I think I’m going to … Continue reading When Your Marriage is Wounded (and you’re far away from help)

3 Ways to Care for the Heart of Your Missionary Kid

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Yesterday, we talked broadly about caring for the heart of your TCK. If you missed it, you can find it here. Today, we’re looking at the unique subset of TCKs known as Missionary Kids. I thought I was done with youth ministry. I thought I’d move to Cambodia, be a “real missionary” (whatever that is) … Continue reading 3 Ways to Care for the Heart of Your Missionary Kid

A Cautionary Tale: Expats & Expets (What not to do)

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This month I’m writing in the air while I fly away from my island home. My feet will touch the ground in five cities today before I arrive at my final destination. Leaving the kids and the work behind, of course my mind is filled with all sorts of ‘A Life Overseas’ things, but I … Continue reading A Cautionary Tale: Expats & Expets (What not to do)