“So – Is that out of state?” And Other Questions We Navigate

I felt my face grow hot. I was in a small town shopping at a smaller store when a well-meaning woman stopped and asked me about the purse I had with me. “That’s a beautiful purse” she said brightly. “May I ask you where you got it?” “Oh” I said, a smile lighting up my … Continue reading “So – Is that out of state?” And Other Questions We Navigate

10 Questions to Routinely Ask Your TCKs

by Lauren Wells It is important for parents raising children anywhere to be continually engaging and checking in with their kids. When you are raising TCKs, this is even more important. TCKs are privy to struggles that mono-cultural children don’t often have to face, so being aware of that and taking time to routinely ask … Continue reading 10 Questions to Routinely Ask Your TCKs

7 Ways to Teach Your TCKs to Process Grief

By Lauren Wells The topic of TCKs and grief is one that circulates often on online forums about TCKS, and there is a good reason for this: we know that TCKs deal with a significant amount of loss. In fact, they experience more losses in their first 18 years than most mono-cultural adults do in … Continue reading 7 Ways to Teach Your TCKs to Process Grief

6.5 Myths About Expat Life

(this is a repost from Djibouti Jones) Myth 1: Adventure I’m an expatriate! Cue the Indiana Jones soundtrack, give me a whip and a cool hat, and let’s have an adventure! Okay my husband does have an Indiana Jones hat and I have used an Ethiopian whip, but life as an expatriate is not all … Continue reading 6.5 Myths About Expat Life

Should TCKs Take Their Parents to College?

By Lauren Wells When you become a parent, you quickly realize that there are a plethora of strong opinions about just about anything regarding the rearing of your children. When you are parenting TCKs, the voices are even louder. TCKs often have unique challenges that make parenting far from straightforward, and this is particularly true … Continue reading Should TCKs Take Their Parents to College?

Fight For Your Family

Humanitarian, governmental, and religious organizations sending people abroad don’t always have the best interest of their internationally-located staff in mind. They think they do. They hope they do. Even (I think) many of them try to. But they are organizations, based back in the United States. They are staffed by people who have no idea … Continue reading Fight For Your Family

Ask a Counselor: My child is LGBTQ. What should I do?

A Life Overseas is not a policy-making institution, but rather a support system for missionaries and Christians living overseas.  My experiences and opinions are my own, and I am solely responsible for them.  I am not speaking for other writers or editors.   Due to the controversial nature of this topic, comments will be moderator-approved … Continue reading Ask a Counselor: My child is LGBTQ. What should I do?

In Defense of Second-Class Missionaries

Imagine what it would look like if western churches hired their staff with the same priorities that they choose overseas missionaries to financially support. First of all, a Children’s Pastor would definitely be out.  Not strategic enough; he’s only supporting the children of believers.  Youth Pastor?  Also out, unless he targets neighborhood kids. How about a Music Pastor? … Continue reading In Defense of Second-Class Missionaries

Living Well Abroad: 4 Areas to Consider

My day job here in Cambodia is serving as a pastoral counselor. In a typical week, I meet with clients from Asia, the Americas, Australia, Europe, and occasionally Africa. And whether these clients are missionaries, NGO workers, or international business people, they’re all trying to figure out how to live well here. In Cambodia. I … Continue reading Living Well Abroad: 4 Areas to Consider

Going Home

I sometimes catch myself using finger quotes when I say the word “home.”  You too? I’m writing this on an airplane and am currently 3 hours and 8 minutes away from “home”.  Simultaneously and ironically I am also 9 hours and 4 minutes away from “home.”  I’m in that weird spot that expats love and … Continue reading Going Home

Searching for a better way

My husband and I have literally raised (more accurately, are still raising) our family “internationally.” I’m typing as we drive through the night, returning our third to the States. She graduated last week and now is beginning a gap year where she will work and earn money for college. She’s pretty sure she wants to be a … Continue reading Searching for a better way

7 Thoughts for Graduating TCKs

Dear Graduating Senior, This spring I hugged you. I cried with you. I said goodbye to you. And then I looked into the faces of your parents as they said goodbye too. How can I express the depth of my love for you and your parents? I don’t know. All I know is that if … Continue reading 7 Thoughts for Graduating TCKs