What does the research say about TCKs attending boarding school?

In this post I present four findings from TCK Training’s research on the experiences of TCKs who primarily attended boarding schools. Every schooling type comes with some level of risk. There is no perfect choice. Instead, make the best decision for your family.

The Untold Stories of Returned Missionaries

You’ve been back in this country for a little less than three months and you’re just wrapping up another talk at one of your sponsoring churches. People walk up to you after the service and shake your hand to welcome you back. “You must be so happy to be home!” they proclaim with earnest and … Continue reading The Untold Stories of Returned Missionaries

Parent Self-Care: Moving Past the Buzzword to Prioritizing Well-being in the Midst of Life Abroad

Living on the field usually looks like immersion. You’re there 24 hours a day, with the people you’re trying to serve. There are calls at all hours, and demands for more than you can possibly give. So you die to yourself and pick up your cross and go on and on trying to meet all the needs. At some point you start to wonder how long you can do this because looking at the road ahead or behind you, 10, 20, 30 years seems a lot longer of a journey than the road to Calvary.

Can Faith and Fear Exist at the Same Time?

by Rebecca Hopkins Anna Hampton and her husband Neal lived and worked for nearly 20 years in war-torn Islamic countries, including 10 years in Afghanistan, where they started raising their three children. She’s a mom, risk specialist, and member care worker who now trains workers in risk management, fear, and courage from a Christian perspective. … Continue reading Can Faith and Fear Exist at the Same Time?

A surprise book review (but really, you need this book)

I reluctantly did her Bible studies with teammates in Beijing. They loved her, and being a team player, I held my judgmental comments to myself. Mostly. It was the days of someone hauling DVDs and physical copies of the Bible studies in their suitcase. The woman on the DVD was from a southern part of … Continue reading A surprise book review (but really, you need this book)

How to Start Healing From Trauma: The Unseen Trauma of the Mission Field Part 3

by Shonna Ingram In part one of this series on trauma, I explained what trauma is and what it does to us. In part two, I told you about James’s story. As we think about his story, we notice that he is not in this situation because of one big, traumatic event. Instead, it was … Continue reading How to Start Healing From Trauma: The Unseen Trauma of the Mission Field Part 3

How Trauma Shows Up on the Field: The Unseen Trauma of the Mission Field Part 2

by Shonna Ingram This is the second article in a three-part series about the Unseen Trauma of the Mission Field. Today we will explore the way trauma shows up on the mission field. As I mentioned in Part 1, the first place we notice trauma is in behaviors and reactions. If you do a google … Continue reading How Trauma Shows Up on the Field: The Unseen Trauma of the Mission Field Part 2

The Unseen Trauma of the Mission Field: What Trauma Is and What It Does

by Shonna Ingram In 2008 my husband and I took our four children to East Africa to serve in a Bible translation project. We didn’t go overseas until our early 30s. We thought that having some life experience would give us a little bit of an advantage over those joining missions right out of college. … Continue reading The Unseen Trauma of the Mission Field: What Trauma Is and What It Does

Risk Factors and Risk Prevention for Homeschooled MKs

While these numbers are disturbing, they are not the end of the story. It is not inevitable that missionary kids, and especially homeschooled missionary kids, will experience abuse and neglect during their childhood years. There are preventive care measure we can put in place to limit the likelihood that these traumas will occur, and protective factors to buffer them from negative long term consequences of the difficulties they do face. Here are four simple ways to engage in risk prevention for missionary kids.

A Pocket Guide for Talking to Missionaries: Dozens of Missionaries Open Up About Questions They Love and Questions They Don’t

“Soooo…..how’s Mongolia?” Let’s be realistic here. There really is no perfect way to start a conversation in the church foyer with someone you haven’t seen in three years. Especially if that person has been living in Mongolia.  Uh, Mongolia’s good. All good. Cold, but good. Cue awkward silence while both parties are nodding and fake … Continue reading A Pocket Guide for Talking to Missionaries: Dozens of Missionaries Open Up About Questions They Love and Questions They Don’t

How to Serve Abroad Without a Savior Complex (an interview with Craig Greenfield)

by Rebecca Hopkins Are you cautious about being a “white savior” but still feel called to be involved in mission work in other cultures? Craig Greenfield’s newest book, Subversive Mission: Serving as Outsiders in a World of Need offers five categories—catalyst, ally, seeker, midwife, and guide—for the outsider who wants to be sensitive to pitfalls … Continue reading How to Serve Abroad Without a Savior Complex (an interview with Craig Greenfield)

New data shows how missionary kids can suffer. Here’s what parents can do about it.

Missionary Kids are experiencing abuse and neglect at higher rates than American children.  Dramatically higher, in some cases. Now that we know, what do we do? The bottom line: we need to talk to our kids. We need to understand their perspective and how our lives can appear to them. We need to provide clear assurance to them that they are and will continue to be loved, listened to, protected, and cared for.