loss

TCK Lessons: “Everyone Leaves”

by Editor on October 26, 2018

by Tanya Crossman The experience of living overseas as a child is very different to the experience of living overseas as an adult. The impact of childhood experiences last a lifetime. They are formative experiences – they teach us how the world works. We all internalise ‘lessons’ from our childhood experiences. TCKs grow up between […]

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It was an accident!

by Jonathan Trotter on May 3, 2017

I never wanted to be a writer. Ever. My first article for A Life Overseas was only the second article I’d ever written. Seriously. But God retains his sense of humor, and I retain my sense of gratitude. I’m grateful for the leaders of the site who gave me the bandwidth, and I’m grateful for you, […]

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The Gift of Grief and the Thing I Heard in Portland

by Jonathan Trotter on February 10, 2017

“If we honestly face the sadness of life in a fallen world, then only our hope in Christ can preserve us from insanity or suicide.” – Larry Crabb That’s an intense statement, and I sort of choked when I read it for the first time. But the more I chew on it, and the more I […]

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Your kids aren’t going to remember what you get them for Christmas. They’re just not. At least I don’t. My mother died when I was a teen, my dad when I was in my early twenties. And when I think of the holiday seasons with them, I remember them. I don’t remember their gifts. I […]

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When you just want to go home

by Jonathan Trotter on March 3, 2016

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I swim in the abyss of memories. People and places I cannot return to, and few know. It is a morass I voluntarily enter, knowing it will hurt, but needing it still. Someone should remember these things. Birthdays used to be happy occasions, full of cake and memories of years gone by. Now, birthdays are just […]

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Love and Loss: A Poem

by Editor on February 21, 2016

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The accumulated losses of the years I’ve spent abroad Sometimes make me start to wonder if I serve a loving God. Where is love in loss and failure? Where is love in hard goodbyes? Maybe love—to understand it—must be seen through diff’rent eyes. – If I trust that You are loving, bringing rain through darkest […]

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Searching for Home

by Kathleen Shumate on December 22, 2015

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It’s hard to describe the turbulence of soul that comes from being on the move, always unsettled. You cannot be still and breathe deeply. You cannot love the wild-growing front-lawn tulips too much, or the way the sunlight turns the living room into a golden elven forest in the afternoon. They will soon be gone. […]

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When Grief Bleeds

by Jonathan Trotter on April 7, 2015

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Grief is a powerful thing, echoing on and on through the chambers of a heart. Loss singes the soul, and death does indeed bite. We are not the only ones who grieve, to be sure, but those who’ve lived abroad certainly know this to be true: it hurts to leave. It hurts to return. And […]

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Connecting the Head and the Heart

by Marilyn on March 2, 2015

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  I heard difficult news last night, and suddenly all the world is blanketed in loss. I can barely breathe from the heaviness. This loss — it suffocates so it is all I can see, all I can think about. There is so much loss in a life of movement. There are the tangible, concrete […]

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Outlawed Grief, a Curse Disguised

by Jonathan Trotter on December 22, 2013

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Living abroad is an amazing adventure, but it comes with some baggage. And sometimes, the baggage fees are hidden, catching you by surprise, costing more than you planned.  You thought you had it all weighed out, you could handle this, squeeze right under the limit. But then it got heavy.  Your new friends moved away, […]

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