marriage

Sex and the Married Missionary

by Jonathan Trotter on February 4, 2020

We don’t talk about sex very much. Sure, we might joke about it (the first working title for this article was The Missionary Position), but we don’t actually talk about it very much. Truth is, most folks are scared to death to have an honest, non-joking, realistic talk about sex. Maybe with a good friend, […]

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Relationship cliches about living abroad There’s a well-worn line in expatriate circles that goes something like this: “Moving overseas will either strengthen your relationship, or break it.” And here’s another one that gets rolled out regularly: “If your relationship was strong before you moved, it will become stronger. If there were already problems, moving overseas […]

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Small Thoughts: giving some stray ideas a place to land

by Jonathan Trotter on September 4, 2017

Sometimes I cough up small thoughts. You know, the one-liners or one-paragraphers that end up floating, never finding a place to lay their pretty little heads? Well, here are a few small thoughts. Some are text, some are short videos, all are simple. They range from post-fall marriage to emotional nomenclature, from guilting people into […]

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Help! My spouse doesn’t feel called to this.

by Craig Greenfield on June 2, 2017

I’m going to wade into this thorny area today, because it’s one of the most common questions I get via email from people: “What do I do when my spouse doesn’t have the same sense of calling to the poor, or mission, or ministry, that I do?” A common scenario is that one partner is gung-ho […]

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How Living Abroad is Like Marriage

by Rachel Pieh Jones on March 20, 2017

Compatibility is an achievement of love. It shouldn’t be its precondition. Alain de Botton The same could be said for living abroad. I hear many people say they ‘fell in love with Africa’ as soon as their feet touched the ground off the plane. I’m not sure how Kenyan or Nigerian or Burundian tarmac has […]

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The Mother of Modern Missions?

by Abby Alleman on August 26, 2016

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It was a Sunday morning. Sunshine filtered through the rose trellis by Lake Balaton. I stilled my heart and reflected upon the message I had just heard. Three pioneers of the faith were highlighted. One of them was William Carey, considered ‘the father of modern missions’. When talking about his home life, it was said […]

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3 Ways to Care for the Heart of Your Wife

by Jonathan Trotter on May 4, 2016

Marriage can really be a drain on missions. Marriage on the field can be a constant source of distraction, discouragement, and pain. But I hope it’s not. I’ve written before about marriage and its purpose, but today I’d like to take a step back and speak directly to husbands: my brothers. This advice is carefully […]

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The Language Learning Mother

by Rachel Pieh Jones on March 16, 2016

I moved to Africa with two-and-a-half year old twins. One of the first things people ask me about that year is how I learned language, because I did. And I don’t feel like I abandoned my kids or neglected my husband in order to do it. I’m focusing on the Mother here because I typically […]

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Lauren

I am delighted today to share a conversation with my friend Lauren Pinkston. Lauren is married and has a delightful toddler who will soon become a big sister through international adoption. Lauren is super energetic, fun, and so graciously open to chatting. She and her family live in Southeast Asia and work with human trafficking. […]

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“Your husband is gone again!? Wow, he’s gone all the time.” When a friend told me this I paused, “Really?” Was he travelling too much? Were we being reckless and affecting our children in negative ways? How much is too much, anyways? Living overseas comes with a lot of unique lifestyle changes. One of them, […]

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The Anchor and The Hurricane

by Anisha Hopkinson on November 8, 2015

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I’m a dreamer. I know it’s not really possible for me to save the world, but I still dream about it all the time. I’m a great starter. Full of passion and can-do spirit, I dive right in. Don’t try to warn or reason with me, the risks don’t really mean much. My husband is […]

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Nine Ways to Save a Marriage

by Sarita Hartz on September 21, 2015

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If there is one place where your marriage will suffer, it’s probably on the mission field. My husband and I waltzed into marriage crazy in love and stupidly naïve. After knowing each other only 4 months, we eloped on a white sand beach in Zanzibar, Tanzania. Then we spent the next five years running a […]

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